Every day we are stuck in a lot of trivia, the attention was transferred, so can not see or remember every day and that fact has little to achieve this success, and the interaction between people happy moment, these little by little small achievements and happy little moment, that is, happy life.
Recently, I told one of only 30 early on when the head of the female friends together, talking, but not more than a year, she changed a lot, not, as before complaining about the boss as the heavy burden of grief over her thirties, no boyfriend , there is no time for yourself ... ..., but happy about the work plan, with the team's experience, and bought a new car hanging out with my mom happy, that life is good.
I inquire why. She said: "I figured out, I decided to spare myself."
What a "spare me your" I cheer for the front of the new women.
You do not have the experience, unexplained wake up at night, worried about the country while roaming thoughts before sleep and drowsy. Not worry about the country the following areas:
Enough, not good enough, including: paying the money earned is not enough memory is not enough, lack of time, the details of work done there is still not perfect, not clean enough at home recently, children's homework last stare close enough, her husband (or boyfriend) has recently not love me, weight loss, not adhere to the recent action, not the male partner (or no children) life is not complete ... ... good times never last, good luck will always run out of happy hour is always too fast, too so happy days now about not for long ... .... Sometimes unconsciously want to destroy his good fortune, just to prove their idea is right, the other half of love than the Fang Mingming, picking From time to time to find subjects fought fight.
I really have such a distinguished it? Will be exposed the day he was just always very worried about our house divided against itself is also not good enough, those who praise us only temporarily by our head just kept faint, they might someday I is not a financial expert to be exposed, not to write article, material good luck every day unhappy things have to repair the car, the boss at work told me to do something before the throw, a few seconds each time difference did not catch the bus (or subway), drag long piles of tax information and forms not filled mess, yet handled a lot of e-mail ... ... less than often thought in life, people habitually live in the shadow of anxiety, would not spare themselves, may How much you and I have a little addiction.
Reason may be as follows: small things grab must be used (from the grab floss with rice, to grab a good school places), otherwise you will not get; Executive to remind parents and teachers are often "you can better" feel really bad outstanding, less efforts; many would like to not worry about more than just worry about those, because even if the result is still not very good, but the psychological on the feel I have a responsibility, not blame too deep ... ....
I also noticed a lot of emphasis on commercial advertising for women, "You should use this product," "You should love yourself", "you should spend money to pamper yourself" ... ..., rarely seen for men in the ad to the use of such language.
This tendency seems common: men more often overestimate their own, but a woman often underestimate their own, rarely has a woman can actually measure their own, we called her a "strong woman."
American psychologist Block 301 high school seniors had to do psychological tests, found that although more girls than boys in academic performance generally good, many people have even got the Westinghouse scholarships, but the self-confidence than boys. Some of the class is clearly the top few, but the old still not good to emphasize their part, frequently said, "Oh, I still do not understand some of xxx."
