People in this world, will do a lot of things against their will. In
most of the time, we unconsciously adapt to the requirements of people
engaged in the work they do not like living in an environment where
hate doing "in rivers and lakes, involuntarily" things ... ...
although you do want to to get rid of, the reality can not always let
you get rid of " mental monster "prisoners. If and when that poor
depressed mood strikes, you can take the initiative to master Fangcun
De control it, was able to escape the psychological shackles of
freedom.
Type of perfectionism captured
Typical language: "Do not know what will others think, that all right?"
29-year-old service manager Haifeng experience is going to do when he
first public demonstration, he always repeated the smallest idea of
the plot, such as his image, pronunciation, tone of voice will give a
visual appreciation of how people Remember this is a PowerPoint to
prepare a few days of operation, whether in person on stage so when
the foot of the trip. Outcome can be imagined, and Haifeng night in
the open demonstration did not sleep the night before, because he
would like to have the problem too complex, live performances, but
also care about other people's reaction too, the audience he was
nervous a little sign of trouble , carefully prepared the material did
not come in handy, the result was terrible.
Psychological Review: In fact, many people are like this, we always
thought the problems or difficulties as far as possible to get
everything, can make our work more perfect, but this is not true, but
mind how others look at the situation more common in psychological
immaturity of the people. "I talk too much people will think I'm
pushy," "I do that, people will laugh at me" ... ... that to perfect
the idea of making "other people" thought captive. Most people will
not listen to the advice of a competent person, and even seriously
affect their creativity.
Corrective measures:
1. If, after you win the appreciation of others can feel happy, we
might try to cater to his ideas. Otherwise you should go their own way
of life.
2. Rationally face the new light of others, criticize, because the
higher the position, as the chat was more chance of the object, the
chance to be more critical.
3. And aggressive, helpful and like-minded people to do friends .
4, everyone has the "cupboard." Have a lot of issues that need to meet
you so, others also do so.
Lack of self-type prisoners
Typical language: "I like how unlucky you? No chance I would like to
transfer a lifetime."
34-year-old accounting Anchor recently found, she could not restrain
myself, for some trivial matters furious. Since the promotion last
month, my colleagues Suzanne, her mood has been a slump. Sandee longer
than their length of service, also prominent on the results, why not
promotion and pay rise? Anchor has lost the confidence to succeed, she
would like that he might have no chance of a lifetime transfer, so
increasingly anxious. She began to anything not tolerate, such as long
queues in the bank counter, the restaurant serving the slow speed or
in a half dozen phone suddenly dead. Worse, even long after the thing
happened, she had been brooding. All series of bad things to come into
her head, she felt wonderful thing is simply the most unfortunate
people.
Mental Comments: This type of lack of self-awareness of psychological
demons that he is very small and can not really see myself. They often
complain that "I do not have a good opportunity," "I will fail," "the
people around me are against," "leadership does not value me" ... ...
In fact, you can think about things their own development, when a
person wants to How to become when he really did. If the person you
want to quit telling yourself "I can not quit," then he can not smoke
will never quit. So now need to be thinking of a change Caixing.
Corrective measures:
1. Have the eye to eliminate irritable mood to forget the most
important step. We are on little sense of frustration and depression
often stems from our attempt to fully take control of their life
expectations.
2. Often use a good, positive, constructive vocabulary implying that
he will enhance self-confidence. As possible from the usual "why can
do" of sake, and not focus on "why can not do" spin.
3. Mind always thinking "I will be successful," "I am a winner," which
will enhance the will to win, and trying to find ways that contribute
to success.
Fatalistic type of prisoner
Typical language: "I'm too old to die, or Anfen some good."
30-year-old personnel manager Yanqing Sheng completed promptly after
the child returned to the unit, because the choice of working at home
with the baby and not her endless guilt. Daily work is often
distracted, and finally lost as a personnel file at once, was superior
to "memory on the age of the women are bad?" To the group a pass
censure, did not think the idea is clear from Yan became increasingly
lax . Work before she felt the heat characteristics of a workaholic,
but now old and worried about the child's situation, she wanted to
accompany their children at home will certainly not suffer. So Yan
Qing to work and family caught in the dilemma between the crossbar She
is not completely quit, but also not fully take into account the
family, anyway, she is now the state is their fate.
Psychological Review this psychological devil is usually considered to
be a certain age do when the situation have missed a good opportunity,
now do not bother fighting for. For example, some think they have too
much 26 years old can not go on to college education; 40 years old,
some think they can not get married again. In fact, risk is an
objective reality, human survival, development, and is a constant
struggle, continue the process to eliminate the sense of insecurity.
Corrective measures:
1. Do not care about age limits, and from life to find fresh example.
2. Not perfunctory. A planned, systematic efforts toward their own ideals.
3. To make life more colorful, vivid and dramatic.
4. Because of the risk will have to climb, there are difficulties will
have a breakthrough. Pressure will have to rise a storm will have a
fight. So to learn to face difficulties and rare, the unknown.
Lesson type prisoners
Typical language: "In the past committed such a mistake, it is now
more conservative, do not do the."
28-year-old is pleased to be editing a magazine ad. Once a business
advertisers because of previous drug manufactured pesticides on the
human body harmful, pharmaceutical companies decided to stop selling,
and developing new drugs instead. Is pleased to be responsible for
advertising of new drugs by the careless use of the name of the old
drugs. This error is a direct consequence of the magazine lost
advertisers, leaders also readily dismissed. In theory, Zhicuojiugai
errors on the line, but pleased after the hand becomes fear fear feet.
When she was hired and worked for a company advertising department,
she actually cowards and customer communications. Order thwarted time
and again to her work at risk.
Psychological Review: hearts are controlled by past failures trauma,
fear that any new attempt is characterized by, once bitten, twice shy.
Frustrated by failure. Do not know how lessons learned from failures.
Over-valued lesson, this type of psychological harm their captives to
make themselves hesitant to explore.
Corrective measures:
1. Will fail as an investment, do not think it is lost. Some people
say that Edison to build a practical electric light bulb failed 9999
times, he thinks he found the 9999 kinds of methods can not be
applied.
2. If you can promptly detect the error, it simply can not be wrong.
3. If we can carefully analyze the failure and learn how to benefit
from, the loss will translate into a good thing.
Whether you are acting as a "psychological demons" rein in the types
of prisoners, it will eventually overwhelm you, as you carry the same
weight to the stairs, then light the burden will become more important
later. So what do you hesitate, light up your negative psychological
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