"Who said that the secret is out? CEOs will not mistake me?"
"I accidentally heard of the company to lay off staff, did not mind working these days." ... ...
The workplace, such mental anxiety events abound. In fact, these anxieties are derived from a word that is "secret." As the saying goes "The more you know, the more trouble." Workplace who seem to appreciate more deeply this sentence, but the "secret" seems to always not been invited, along with the anxiety if not promptly resolved, may lead to health problems, such as are palpitations, palpitation, stomach cramps and other symptoms. How to resolve a secret that the "poison" it? Published tomorrow "Tomorrow fast 1 week" magazine, will be through the Mental Health Center of West China Hospital, and Professor Sun Xueli workplace survey of people tell you the answer.
Extreme cases
Misunderstood female staff member threatened to spread to colleagues in the secret of suicide
"My work and marriage have been greatly affected, I am confused, really want to die. "Recently, the 27-year-old woman surnamed Li, reached the newspaper's hotline, said he was a staff member, with a female colleague At the same time was informed of the secret of a male colleague. Recently, the secret but was made public, everyone thought that it was out, she said. "I really did not say, it may be that female colleagues. However, the presence of all the people she had scolded me and said I and another male colleagues havean ambiguous relationship. "Ms. Lee felt her colleagues are Behind talking about. "Some words have reached the ears of my husband, with my husband also clamor for divorce . From October 8 days later, I did not go to work, the spirit is very trance ... ... "
In this regard, West China Hospital, Sichuan University, Center for Mental HealthCounseling Master Liao that, "Ms. Lee character is more sensitive, very focused on their own views to others, and their mental state began to trance, so it is not just a question of anxiety, We also suggested that she receive professional psychological counseling. "Liao said," secret "caused by anxiety, its lethality can not be discounted.
Press survey Bacheng career has more or less "secret"
"You know, Mike's dad who is the chairman of our comrades in arms, so it into our company."
"No wonder I often see Li, chairman of the car ride at night to go out, the original did not think there is that relationship."
"Is the thing, but you do not come to say Ha."
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This scene, I believe many people have experienced. Whether on the bus, or in the toilet, or QQ, and discuss the secrets of the office who has become a part of life in the workplace. The reporters found that there Bacheng professionals have dogged the "secret", the most common is the little office gossip, love life, such as colleagues, the leadership of the movements and so on. But again, in our survey that many people in the event of a secret, but also encountered a lot of embarrassment or even evolve into a "a soft spot."
Secrets of the "poison"
1. And saw the "secret"
Pressure heart panic secret Biede
Forgotten because they do not accidentally put the key in the office, Miss Lau crashed through the middle of the night back when the two colleagues of the underground conditions. The man's wife or his male colleagues, a good friend . Suiran male colleagues who agreed to "temporarily not say," but every time I see my friend, Miss Liu are constantly struggling to develop into an on-line to see friends, and myself flew off the assembly line, friends about their meeting, immediately tried every means to evade.
"Obviously the two of them feelings, how I feel is my own mistakes? Like every time I see her all prick in the body. Then to the mouth, not daring to speak." Miss Lau caught anxiety .
2. Mistakenly said "secret"
Regret give something away for two months of insomnia
In the survey, almost half of those who tell us that a friend had accidentally been secretly give something away. Civil Chung said he and colleagues in an after dinner drink led inadvertently uttered a secret. The next day, Mr. Chung learned that people throughout the company know. Two months, Mr. Chung led every day nervously afraid to know, when I see the leadership come, quickly hid in a corner. "I often have nightmares at night, are dreaming of leading out why I questioned."
3. I heard the "secret"
Overheard the "trash talk" friends become strangers
Active taking of curiosity or entertainment may also make some people secretly kind ofvoyeuristic pleasure unmet desire, but some inadvertently let people know the secret of the awkward and difficult to handle. Miss Chang had heard weekdays in the bathroom because the sisters commensurate with their colleagues behind their own ill, since then, Miss Chang was extremely disgusted with the hypocrisy of the other faces.
Experts "detoxification"
Character, the ability of the environment decided to take a secret
"Everyone assumes the ability to vary. This with their environment, and my character has a great relationship." Liao said, in the workplace, the white-collar workers because of the secret anxiety of the situation so very much . "But not everyone will soon have a secret anxiety, and some people may be instantly forgotten, but some people may have been the pressure can make it very hard to accept." Liao spoke of women as more emotional and sensitive so than men are more likely to generate anxiety, and a perfectionist, sensitive, and care about other people who view traits caused more anxiety.
Secret antidote
Do not carry too much responsibility to others
"I know other people's secrets, things that put others to impose on themselves, allow yourself to pay, it is informed of the pressure after the secret lies." Liao said, the face of the "secret" release the pressure, the following points should be :
1. To correct understanding of their responsibilities. To take what they should and what should not go to their own commitments. Such as some secret, the parties tell you. Since he chose to say to you, that he will to take up this responsibility, not by you to take.Do not carry too much responsibility to others.
2. Correct understanding of self. Do not always worry about how the secret got out about you, how would people look at me. First of all you know you said the secret is not out, it Qingzheziqing.
3. Searching for the express way. What secret is to say, and what should not be said, many people will have their own set of moral judgments. Ways to deal with each person is different, some people automatically on the forgotten, while some others want to express.It can be selected and the parties do not interest a friend or family, to remove the names of the parties, or find some hidden channels to express.
