White-collar "sun secrets" cited a number of voyeur who
Love, career, personal physical privacy issues accounted for over ninety percent of the total secret
To last night from his mouth I know, married for many years, he actually said when he did not want to marry me, but I am forced to be married. Love , I was unmarried girl, received divorced with a son and him. If not I remember wrong, then he is anxious to get a marriage certificate with me, and I do not hurry to do, this also argue again. To the licensing of the day, shot sheets taken. That photo, he is Xiaohe, for me, no makeup and no smile. Married life is not happiness, in the honeymoon when he smashed the glass, and also broken my heart. He made ????divorce and pushing me, and I have conceived, and are followed by the Cold War and even his hands to me. After the birth of a child, still do not care about only indifference. Guzhen tears flow for two years, gradually realized that it was just torturing myself, and I learned to be strong, but also learned to face his indifference, the Institute will use the first opportunity he had to use my body language to counter the wicked ... ...
This emotional catharsis, not from among friends, then do not say no, not MSN sign in, complain, but from a website. In this called "secret" website, users can not arbitrarily write down up to hide in my heart all secrets. Recently, several secret sharing sites quietly rising, talk to friends who enjoy posting can not express to others the inner secrets, daily life, hard to say, rather awkward topic, on the site one by one in the form of inner monologue published anonymously. Experts said that while white-collar workers are in favor of online outlet in the busy work to their relief , but also not afraid of leaks, but the best is still to come talk to their friends and family, so more conducive to mental health.
Secret network is very hot
Done wrong in life, say unhappy heart obstacles encountered in the work, which can not be free to die in the life of all things available online to shout. Recently, a foreign work of Mr. Bai Lingxu to find such a "vent" a good place. "I tried the Internet issued a secret, the feeling of people a lot easier." Xu told reporters, when their working and living there are not happy, he would line "vent" about. "Some people will comfort you, but also encounter the same boat, as though a little addicted."
Guidelines to follow Mr. Xu, a reporter in the online search to the "secret", "secret", "secret network" and many other websites and found that very busy popular. The "secret network", for example, about the secret every day more than 200 new releases, but the secret of the cumulative total number of sites 102 855. The site also provides a list of several psychologists, say we can accept the advice, only 1391 people to the experts consulted.
Through the site statistics on a number of secrets, the reporter found that in the Web site on their own secret, aged mostly between the ages of 18-35, mainly 20-year-old white-collar oriented. The open secret, the relationship problems, workplace relations with supervisors and colleagues and personal physical privacy issues accounted for more than 90% of all secrets.
"Sun secret" into a new way young decompression
It is understood that these sites began to publish the secret love by young people, "sun secret" way to become popular decompression. Required to register, visit the website can be anonymous, will be the secret heart of a spit out, there are other commenters on feelings. This form is more and more accepted by white-collar workers.
FANS of a secret network hardcore boys in reading week university students admitted to reporters, exchange and sharing through the web site privacy for him is a good choice, compared to call the "sentimentalist" and other broadcast-type program, the site has better Privacy and timeliness. "I think of it as a way to seek help, the secret network of people to have their own confusion, so it will not be fun or a malicious laugh, here, there is a relative identity." It is understood that there week and minority students to the idea, the reason they bypass the psychological counseling agencies and other traditional ways, most of the psychological fear of embarrassment and trouble. Semi-open networks but give them more security.
The sun is not a secret but lonely
This reporter saw the main contents of the secret variety, marital problems are a popular Web site, and many office workers chose to talk to the workplace on the site confusing."The boss always told me to work overtime overtime, I can not stand, really want to severely fired boss", "My husband always travel a lot, really want to come back early to accompany his Son ... I ..." because it is not to be registered anonymously, so no one knows who made the secret, but a lot of secrets between the lines from the point of view, publishing people do enjoy very much need a space to talk. There are friends, laughing, "I made no secret that it is lonely."
Many journalists also available online to browse to the case of sexual orientation bias, most of them can realize their own choice in the sex partner has a relative error, and frankly that love between same-sex feelings never around friends and family of the parents disclosed last part, "feel that they are dirty, I'm sorry parents, very painful, and friends say there is no way." They love their same-sex couples, in real life, all the secular concept of the traditional barrier to suppress them carefully emotions, while trying to change, while another bitter love into conflict.
Network has attracted so many secret voyeur
Secret network increasingly popular, in addition to more and more people talk secret, the secret spy also many friends. Because all published on the websites from the publisher's secret heart, the content attracted a lot of strange "by Quest." Most of them to pry into the privacy of others for pleasure, there are many ideas or help would be dedicated to the proposal.
"It's fun, all the vicissitudes of life here, and I will free up around town and I sometimes meet people who have the same secret, very familiar." A netizen to say. Ms Fung often to see the secret network, told reporters that, each time to see the secret is to feel the spirit of a shock, unable to stop the passage of time some day, people want to see what new secrets. "Every day I will have a secret impulse of curiosity and a few other people do not look at the secret peace of mind can not sleep."
The reporters also found that Internet addicts, said, peeping like everyone has, everyone would like to know the secrets of others, to meet the look of curiosity. Sometimes watching TV than watching these secrets, the novel is also enjoyable. "Surreptitiously, Gengshuang."
Psychology experts
Professionals have to find relief
"The more secrets more they want to say add that 'this is our secret, do not tell anyone Oh,' more impressive fresh. Secret network is a 'spiritual trash'." National Class Counselor Li Jiahui , said in an interview, people have the desire to talk, the secret of my heart more, and hid for a long time, are prone to psychological problems, the secret dumping all the "trash", the fall is over, my heart a lot of natural comfortable.Traditionally, these things will be friends or to talk with a personal diary, but in today's increasingly indifferent relationship, tell a friend after the friend will not be very worried about his own secret exposed, and the paper diary this era has gradually been eliminated, and blog is mostly know as colleagues and friends to view, privacy should not be said that the incident can only serve as "show field", hence the birth of a secret network is effectively meet people's needs.
Li Jiahui, said there are many ways to vent, drying to the site is just one of them. This approach has several drawbacks: First, the easy to overlook the exchange of family and friends, many people prefer to say that the secret to strangers, thus reducing the degree of trust between people.
Second, the network is an open site, anyone can see a secret, so that people around instead of holing according to some of the content and effect can not be played completely confidential.
Third, the long-term access to vent, likely to cause dependence on the network, usually after work, and an occasional Web browsing, will have an impact on work.
Li Jiahui pointed out that some urban young people, that decompression of the surface can reach the purpose of catharsis, is not the case, the online outlet can only get a moment of pleasure, like some people to vent with, like a snack, in fact, there is no vacuum, after Instead, greater pressure. She suggested, you can choose a healthier way of relief, for example, more intimate family friends to talk, of course, is to consult some of the best professionals, so you can better alleviate the pressure, thereby achieving the decompression effect.
Website
So that everyone can talk to the secret
"There is a secret network" management staff "laugh", said in an interview, the secret network is being designed as a thought based on a common platform for people, "Everyone has their own secret, he may not find can talk to people on the site, if users with similar experiences with him to give him a little help, you can give him something about psychological problems. love, friendship, love , this is what we want to see on the Internet . "
"Laugh," said the Web site from March 2007 on the line since the "audience" has been growing, the problems the current site is released too many secrets, and really help them solve the problem of too few people. "All of us, complain through our website, so although understandable, but also directly led to the decline in the quality of the secret."
It is understood that most of these secret networks have a network of psychologists in psychological problems for the existing users who clear up doubts, but not many people accordingly. "Our website has several experts every week sits on duty, but always in short supply." "Laugh," said helplessly. The site currently belongs to public welfare and does not have much money to pay experts, we do not meet the needs of all users.
According to site administrator, said the secret of all previously released focus on family gossip, emotional scars and the workplace situation, and so, when the site does not set audit mechanism. However, users are released after more and more unhealthy contents, a direct result of decreased levels of the site, users now need to receive their statements can be issued after examination owners. "Illegal content is not easily access the Internet."
