Test your work happiness index following a 1 point each check. If you
have scored more than 6 points to show that you have a high index of
happy work, the current job for you, the basic means enjoyable and
worthwhile; If the score of less than 4 points, you have to be careful
friends. Because the work for you, not just as simple as the monthly
revenue, may also include a lot of trouble.
01. The company is doing well, year-end bonuses to make you satisfied;
02. Can be boss of MSN chat often; 03. The company to make
arrangements for the post is for you; 04. Everybody always open the
boss's jokes, this boss does not mind; 05. arrange annual medical
examination ; 06. the state's labor laws and regulations are the
implementation of the company was unambiguous; 07.boss can basically
be fair others; 08. snitch who the company did not market; 09. do not
worry about losing their jobs because of having children; 10.
employees ownership opportunities.
Although many people like their job, but every mention of the current
work, his face still Partly cloudy. Company, colleagues and the work
must be completed each day, it might give us create a variety of
conflicts, grief or even the relationship between people, this
negative emotion if it is long-term, our mood is a kind of corrosion.
Today, management books in the decompression method and yoga practice
can no longer meet the needs of the people more. How out of this
state? We can get back in the office and peaceful relations? How to
work, to make their lips, the smile from the heart? Here is the
solution proposed by the experts:
Happy ① Do not let work a magic all of the French sociologist
(Dominique Meda), said: "must stop 'work is all' idea." She stressed
that work to establish a peaceful relationship, while recognize that
in reality is not easy to do this because we are convinced that "does
not work no eat." Henna is a 27-year-old beauty product brand manager,
"I hope as many psychological self-help books, as suggested, can not
live the same as 'making money'. but the work, I still like a rabbit
that never stops. and more worse, I actually can feel fuzzy from the
happiness! "
A French psychologist Patrick Marr (Patrick Amar) wrote: This
ambivalence is not surprising, the original work is closely
intertwined with the pain and success of the product. But in real
life, the more diverse your self-image, the easier to be happy. In
response, Yale University psychologist Patricia Xialinweier (Patricia
Linville) suggested: "When we have suffered setbacks in the work and
combat, you need to be restored in other areas. If only a sense of
accomplishment from work, then work goes wrong, the more easily
affected mood. and work to maintain an appropriate distance, to
establish a peaceful relationship, precisely in order to feel better
at work happy. "
② happy magic show of his good mood very often, work is not a happy
working atmosphere is the source of dead. French psychologist Benjamin
Saleh (Benjamin Sahler) survey of the many companies found that many
companies have a simple environment, comfortable air-conditioned, soft
carpet, but the atmosphere makes it feel suffocated. Everyone needs a
good working atmosphere, the efforts, such as conversation, good mood,
a sense of humor, as well as the exchange bring a small snack every
day, can be a happy beginning. Beijing Aerospace University Counseling
Center XIAN said: "The close and stable relationships are the most
important factor in happiness or not. We should enrich the poor office
relationships. As with family and friends together, we can find
happiness, then why should At work, give up this happy? "
Of course, this does not make us the office of the baby bear, nor is
it put us over the feelings of their colleagues. Some experts have
suggested that laughter can bring psychological wonders, together with
colleagues should be more fun. Laughter is always the best way to
turning hostility into friendship, and wait for someone else to take
the initiative, it is very negative approach.
Happy to express their needs magic ③ TIPS-02】 【Select a quiz familiar
and simple songs, like "Happy birthday to you." Beating on the table,
so friends to guess. Most people would think that guess is at least
50% probability, in fact, only 2.5%. People usually think that the
listener is presented in the minds of all the information the song, in
fact, to hear each other, but meaningless patter sound.
The work of one of the most annoying situation is the boss seems to do
not realize we need help. Do not think your boss should know what you
think, the above test to illustrate this truth.
"If there are objections to the request of the boss, most people will
choose silence, to avoid conflict." Shuang Du global professional
planners said: "People fear to express their dissatisfaction with the
boss will destroy the relationship, damage their own interests, or
that the conflict can not end . but there are a lot of grievances to
endure the same time not distraction. "A French psychologist Patrick
Marr (Patrick Amar) stressed:" If necessary, we should be polite and
restrained, and frankly to express ideas. unless the boss is a
metamorphosis of abuse mad, or frank expression will not let things
get worse. "
Of course, we must distinguish between, which "can not open," the
difficulty is real and what is just our imagination. In many cases, it
is precisely for their own obstacles to our own. Therefore, talking
with your boss, be sure to determine whether it is something beyond
your own capacity. Both require additional help, or make your boss
understand your efforts are so.
Perhaps the worst is the pressure and made into a habit, we have
forgotten that he still needs. "We should be concerned about the inner
feeling of learning to listen to the sound of body and mind."
Counselors XIAN said: "When we headache, irritability, nausea, loss of
appetite or overeating, perhaps that is the boss and talk about the
time. "
④ not happy magic too much emotional investment company "Many times,
employees are in a emotional logic, "psychoanalyst Jean -Day
(Jean-Claude Liaudet) said:" That is, pay and harvesting must be so.
we have to pay, and then expect their pay to be appreciated. This is
wrong! "he said:" People always make the experience of family life,
affect their relationship with the company. For example, they always
the boss who is seeking recognition of this should come from parents.
In psychoanalysis, this is 'empathy'. "Then we try another kind of"
workplace empathy "ways. Psychologist Benjamin Saleh (Benjamin Sahler)
suggested: "We certainly can not work, it will lock their emotions in
the locker room, so not as good as the emotional maturity to face work
with!" How to do it? In general, mature position is: close but
independent.
Happy magic outside of the inner conflict ⑤ "A lot of people think the
workplace, conflict is risky and foolish." Shuang Du global
professional planner, said: "This is because in many Eastern cultures
emphasize rules, advising people to minimize the offense. But the
actual , we should learn the most consistent expression of both inside
and outside. "If the company and the personal conflict of interest,
but weigh in the heart repeatedly, deeply anxious, not a good idea.
Let - Dai said: "The heart of the conflict in our body, usually
presents ulcers and depression. When we decided to fight the shackles
of the body, we can restore their health. If we open minds, we can set
outside of their own in the conflict. This may cause people pain, but
it is a more healthy way. "In fact, there are endless inner conflict
is another hazard. "Evade the problem of losing to solve the problem,
and promote opportunities for spiritual growth." Counselors XIAN said.
Therefore, "only complaint is childish behavior does not act!" Action
is an effective way to relieve anxiety. Relief through a constructive
method to achieve more interesting. To find happiness at work is
certainly not easy, not everyone can get it. We certainly hope that
the company will provide more psychological support. Nevertheless,
psychologists still Patrick Ah Marr warned us: "Everyone should work
on their own emotional charge."
